Welcome back!
So today I thought of writing on a very interesting yet crucial topic as it won't only help YOU guys out but also me!
Insecurities!
Being in the age where you hit puberty and many children get to look amazing and the glow up is astonishing, we forget to consider that for some, puberty isn't easy, its a little disturbing cause of all the pimples, their marks left behind, the body changes, the hormonal imbalances and so many things to add onto the list.
Many children, including me myself! Starts to build these things up as our INSECURITIES! We get complexed by how we look, by how OTHERS are going to look at us!
The children who worked on it pretty well by taking care of their face and body during that time came out to become the oh-such-a-beautiful-glow-up person, but some do not handle it well enough and I am too of that kind.
I never took anything seriously regarding my face or my body. Being a girl, I never got attracted to the parlour facilities. My father always pushed me to get facials, manicures, timely trimmings and all that stuff which a normal girl might want to do. I never opted for that.
In present days, when I'm an 18-year old, I've got plenty of things to show as proof that yes! I went through puberty!
When I look at other girls with glowing clean skin! I too get complexed. When I see girls out there with literally 0% fat and an all-year-long summer body, I too feel insecure. I've got chubby arms due to which I feel shy wearing cut sleeves, and when I look at other gorgeous girls wearing them, I question myself that WHY CANT I!
I cry and I regret not obeying what my father said that time. But you know what? Some days ago, I randomly took out a short camisole, a shrug and a pair of jeans and wore it. My tummy was visible and I swear it was not like other girls' flat and pretty one, but I felt confident. I did not get bothered by what anyone thought of me. I liked it so I wore it. But on the other hand, you see, I tried removing off the shrug and be confident with my chubby arms but I just could not! My mother told me and made me believe that no you're looking perfectly fine just remove it, I wanted to but I COULD NOT!
And this is what actual insecurities do to us! When you start to believe that you won't make it!
That's when you start getting insecure about something. I could've been insecure about my tummy as well and could have chosen to wear longline T-shirts instead of crop and camis, but I chose them just because I'm not bothered about what anyone is going to think, rather I feel happy about it, so I wear it.
The day when I'll start thinking the same way about my arms, the day when I'll stop thinking what others are going to ponder about when they see a girl with fat arms wearing cut sleeves, that day I won't be insecure anymore.
Basically the whole fight is with yourself. No person in this world can make you feel complex by the way you look but by yourself.
All those pimple marks you've got, the fat deposits and maybe some pigmented body areas, all of them are a part of you! If you will start to hate them and start to disown them, why and how can you expect a third person to love them?
You need to start loving every inch of you, be confident with what you have. I don't say to stop making improvements, but accept and love everything you've got.
I am working on this too, I too want to throw off all the shrugs and coveralls, start being confident about my arms and not giving a **** about what people are going to say.
People will never stop I swear! It's you who'll choose whether their words should affect you or not. The day you'll love yourself the way you are, I guarantee you, people will automatically start loving you. And this is not another wording I am saying you guys, I've EXPERIENCED IT.
Just try improving and making alterations in what you think that needs, but never ever hate that! Even if you have a fat tummy and you don't want that, work on it, but don't hate it. Who knows how long it might take to get the perfect belly. Maybe you won't even get enough days in your life to achieve that.
So just to make the most of your life, love and adore every inch of you. You're your own world, begin with yourself and the world will automatically love you.
The first stage of coming out of an insecurity is by talking about them openly. Just start doing it, some will make fun but surely many will respect it.
So let us begin here itself,
Comment down below one of your insecurities which you wanna overcome. If not today, then take your time to gather up some guts and then bring it on.
" When I see your face, there's not a thing that I would change, 'cause you're amazing! JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!" ~ Bruno mars
Stay confident.
Love yourself.
Kick out the insecurities.
Believe me, YOU ARE beautiful!
~BooksButLife❤️
Insecure are people that laugh at some one else „ making fun of others is the first sign that you are drowning “ And working on insecurities and watching them go away is the best feeling in the world so get ready for that .
It takes a hell lot of courage to come out and openly talk about your insecurities.
Kudos to you !! 👍🏼