Love.
I ponder, every person these days do think they are in love with someone. Even I felt, and to be honest, still feel that I’m in love.
So why not talk about that...
What do we think is loving another person?
Not that I’m a love guru or something but seriously, we have over-used this word and the charm is lost..
Nowadays, we tend to use this word so often that the moment we actually LOVE something/someone, we don’t realise the depth of it.
As most of you know that I’m a teenager and YES, I did go through many attractions towards the opposite sex. Some were a big big fail which taught me so much that I would be punishing myself if i say why did that happen to me.
Every-time i got into a relationship or I caught feelings for a guy, i started to feel ”Oh my god I’m in love with him!”
Well well well, it’s not true. I STILL dont know what actual love is, AND when you name such things love, and by things, i mean ATTRACTIONS and infatuations, that is where you’re still immature.
I named things too easily and very quickly. I did not wait for it to be proved and at the end Haha, I used to hit the rock, hard.
What is love then?
Well, if you ask me, an eighteen year old, *but don’t consider me less you guys xd*, I’ve gone through some experiences which made me face some brutal realities which I am glad were brought in my life at such an early age due to which I’m growing.
So, till now, my answer to this question is:
when you start to accept the person the way he/she is,
• Earlier, I refused to accept the person the way he was. I wanted to change some factors according to me.
No darling, you never do that. If there is something you complaint about them which hinders your relationship, well you bring it out in-front of them so that they get to know your perspective as well, not that you are asking them to stop doing that, you are making them realise that yes, if you do that, IT IS MY REACTION which will be given to your act.
This way, both the poles understand each other.
the moment you stop expecting anything in return from them,
• If you love them, or you present your affection in a certain way, you need to stop demanding it in return. Maybe that person shows THEIR affection in some other way which you are ignoring just because most of your attention is towards what you think they’re lacking in giving. You’ll not be satisfied with what they’ll be doing as you’ll be finding something which is not being done and hence, you’ll believe that they’re NOT ENOUGH.
when you are ready to do anything that will help them grow and be a better person.
• The day, the moment you’ll start to imagine they’re growth with yours, oh boy, you are head over heels! As per me, the biggest thing you can do for a person you love is SEE THEM GROW WITHOUT BEING ENVIOUS. When you’ll be ready to help them to improve, to grow, that day you’ll know what that person means to you.
Sometimes, for the betterment of the person, you need to step back too. That is the hardest thing you do when you’re in love. When you realise that YOU might be the person hindering them from reaching the heights they deserve, you need to step back too..
Here here here, many might take this wrong too so let me clear it on the spot, you don‘t have to underestimate yourself here. You need to analyse your relationship here.
For instance, I need to go abroad for my studies, and IF all i get to hear from my boyfriend is that, No, don’t leave me and all that kind of things, Sooner or later, I’ll realise that he’s not the guy.
On the contrary, if my boyfriend pushes me to follow my dreams, MY FAMILY’s dreams, then ill know, that the person is somewhere right for me..
Well this is the tiniest possible example I’ve mentioned.
All i want you to be enlightened here is that WHEN you start to understand and respect the priorities of the person in front of you, the person you think you like, you’re going the right way..
As per me, love is not BETWEEN two people, it is something that is BUILT BY the people.
Water the seed, it will surely grow into a beautiful tree, but yes, it does need the sunlight, the nutrient, not only water… :)
Keep spreading love.
~BooksButLife❤️
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