Hey, Lovies! Howdy!
I hope y'all doing perfectly fine <3
Well *sigh*, what strikes your mind when someone says Distanced Relationship?
Abroad studies? Marriage? Job-Transfers?
Ya, it's pretty obvious to think about these kinds of stuff and MOSTLY we frown when we think of it in terms of rapport and relationships.
Why?
Why do we consider it as a matter of oppression? When we get to know that someone is going far away from us, we grieve. WHY? Why not be happy about it that your loved one is going miles away to build up a bright future for themselves AND you!
storytime....
I have a 3 years elder brother who a couple years back went to Germany to persevere his studies. My parents cried at the airport like hell, of course, I don't blame them. Every parent misses their child when they are ready to go far far away from them.
But, I somehow managed not to cry. Cause all I was thinking about was "Yay, now I'll have the room all by myself and there will be no more fights in the house." xD
But ya, I too missed him after a few months when I literally had no one to annoy.
When we were young, my father flew to Russia for business purposes, and at that time we did not have the video call facility that we have now. I reckon clearly that it was the day of Karwachauth, one of the purest occasions in India for a couple, and my mother could not stop crying as the Skype wouldn't just connect! You see, that is where it gets hard.
Nowadays we have ample services with us that make us feel connected to each other. I mean, I swear to the lord, my brother came back home for a small vacay in march and it really didn't seem like he's been away from us for 2 freaking years!
JUST BY THE MERCY OF VIDEO CALL....
You know, it isn't about distance after all, a person can be there only a few blocks away but still, it will be the "distance" distance just because you are unable to meet them
It is about Missing.
So this was about family, An Unbreakable Bond.
Let me now prod RELATIONSHIPS, like the "boyfriend/girlfriend" relationships.
I've always admired the cute airport-meeting clips on Instagram where the girl and boy rush towards each other and oh-my-god the way they cry and hug!
But, in real life, when I talk about opting for a Long Distance Relationship, I often get negative responses.
"You guys won't make it", "He/she might cheat on you", "It is really difficult to wait", AND WHAT NOT I get to hear.
Why is there a doubt? Why don't we doubt our siblings when they go abroad that what? they'll have a new sister/brother!? This seems hilarious, doesn't it?
Because there is a TRUST, there is a BOND that has been created with love and affection so we don't have to worry, we feel irreplaceable.
The same goes for this! IF you guys have a bond, you guys trust each other, there is nothing to worry about!
It is not easy to fall in love, no one wants to change their love so frequently. Breaking up over distance and just because you guys aren't present IN FRONT of each other is the lamest excuse I can think of. I don't say that missing someone is bad or wrong, but you miss them 'cause you love them. WHY end a relationship on that basis!? Instead isn't that a sign of your pure affection towards that person!?
When two people, who purely love each other, are made to sit in two different countries/cities, the only thing that they miss is their physical presence.
Literally, that is it!
Only this one factor is chucked out from a relationship and it becomes the sole reason for the end.
I know, it is much harder than it sounds and it hurts not to touch, not to see them in front of you for a long period. But, as per my personal experience, I've learned that sometimes distance helps in realising the value of the person.
It automatically aggravates your love for them as you are already going through their absence, you know how it feels if they're not around. You are always desperate to see them, meet them, hug them, touch them.
That makes you VALUE THE PERSON.
No matter what people around you say about your Long Distanced Relationship, it's completely on you whether you trust them and love them enough.
Out of these two things even if ONE, stays missing, it won't work.
Lack of Trust will bring in the thoughts of cheating and sense of being not ENOUGH
and Lack of Love, well, it's simply the End.
The time you have, invest it in developing these two factors, all is set otherwise. No one in this world will come in between your bond when these two factors are rock solid.
Work on it. make the thing difficult for others, simple for you.
That is it for today. I hope you are going to invest your time in developing an unbreakable bond.
Love is like food, add in the right flavours and it will surely taste delicious. All you have to do is do the efforts of putting it in.
~BooksButLife❤️
Nice aspect to long distancing . Caught some important bugs in my mind